This is a work in progress..
The reason why I'm doing this list is, to better understand myself, but also because Jesper once told me it would be so much easier if i came with a manual.
1.)
As a child, I never got any recognition for anything that I did. Instead I heard all about what I shouldn't do and what I had already done wrong.
As a result I can't get enough praise and reassurance, and if someone gives me positive reinforcement for something, I will keep doing that thing and be happy and proud doing it.
It makes me sound like a dog, but hey.. it is what works ;)
I will work very hard to get the positive feedback and to make others happy. The only downside to this is, if I have been doing a lot of good things that merit some sort of recognition, and I don't get it. I get a bit moody.
2.)
I love to hear personal things, stories and facts about the people i love. I feel special to the people who choose to tell me things about them selves. Even the smallest of trivia and boring details about their day is relevant to me, if I love them.
3.)
If I seem sad or quiet, the best way to lift my spirit is giving me a lot of attention. It actually doesn't take long for my mood to lift, if I feel like it's important to others that I feel better.
4.)
When I'm angry it's best to just leave me be, and for god sakes do not criticize anything I do, cuz then I'll just get more offended. And yes, I don't get mad when I'm mad, I get offended. I do this because I know I'll regret my actions later if I have some sort of angry outburst. When I'm offended I feel all the anger on the inside, but it takes a little while longer for it to go away again.
4.)
When I'm very happy, people just gotta keep doing what they're doing cuz it's obviously working. The only thing that can ruin my mood is when other people are in a bad mood.
5.)
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well I'll build this list up as I go, cuz I think it could use some more specific "how to" scenarios ;)
